What a Woman Needs

When a young woman finds out she is pregnant, she does not need your condemnation, your ridicule, your disappointment, your BULLSHIT DRAMA. What she does need is your love and support. Notice I didn’t say acceptance. Even if she knows you’re not happy about her pregnancy, it doesn’t change the fact that she desperately NEEDS your love. Let me explain why I’m writing this.

A young woman I know through P recently found out she was pregnant. She posted the happy news to Facebook and was almost immediately assaulted with this:

“Well, I guess I’m the only asshole who thinks this is a really bad idea.”

Yes, I understand she posted it in a public forum for everyone to read and comment on. But there is a time and a place for that conversation, and Facebook is not it. Instead of respectfully communicating to her that this person did not approve, they publicly humiliated her on what should otherwise be a joyous occasion. Yes, I understand she is young, but that does not mean she needs your support any less. If anything, she needs it even more, and publicly humiliating her is not going to make anything better.

Plus, it’s a little late to say its a bad idea, if you really think about it. This young woman is not going to have an abortion, so the cat is out of the perpetual bag. Instead, they should have said “congrats” then talked to her IN PERSON, in a respectful, non-threatening way about how they were concerned about how she would take care of herself/the baby.

Unplanned pregnancies happen all the time, and its time we started realizing that probably isn’t going to change any time soon. Instead of being disrespectful and rude about it, the family and friends of those having an unplanned pregnancy need to support the person/couple in any way they can or STFU.

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